How to be a woman that gets what she wants from men

Women should cultivate inner strength and vulnerability while avoiding anger and criticism to foster healthier relationships with men.

Summary of Video:

00:00  Women should avoid using anger or criticism to seek love from men, as it stems from childhood dynamics and leads to unhealthy relationship patterns. Making relationships difficult through anger or criticism does not lead to love or change in men, but stems from unhealthy dynamics learned in childhood. Women often feel the need to please men due to unmet emotional needs from their fathers, leading to unhealthy coping mechanisms in relationships. Women often seek approval and love from partners by being critical and upset, hoping it will motivate them to meet their needs. Embracing softness and vulnerability in your approach helps fulfill a man’s desire to make you happy, ultimately leading to a healthier relationship.

03:31 Criticism from feminine women can push healthy masculine men away, while masculine women may shut down from feminine men’s complaints, highlighting the importance of self-love and healing for both genders. Criticism from a feminine woman towards a healthy masculine man leads to retreat, while in inverted roles, a masculine woman may experience shutdown from a feminine man’s complaints.

05:25 Embrace softness and vulnerability to foster a healthier relationship and encourage your partner to meet your needs. Being overly critical can make a partner feel inadequate, leading him to withdraw instead of change.

07:14 Fear of rejection creates a protective barrier that hardens women, leading to criticism and emotional distress even in close relationships.

08:01 To attract healthy men, women should develop inner strength and vulnerability while avoiding an uninviting aura that makes men feel inadequate. An uninviting aura can make men feel inadequate and lead them to withdraw instead of trying to please you. To attract healthy, masculine men, women must cultivate inner strength and vulnerability through self-work and foundational emotional stability.

10:00  Women should pace interactions and manage emotions with men to foster genuine connections and avoid burnout. To effectively engage with men, women should learn to pace their interactions and manage their emotions, especially before commitment, to avoid burnout and maintain interest.  Lashing out at a man when he pulls back may seem effective, but it only activates his ego and can lead to superficial responses rather than genuine connection.

12:13 Meet your own needs first to communicate desires calmly and foster trust in relationships. Creating emotional instability and being reactive in a relationship leads to mistrust and can cause a man to pull away, hindering commitment. To foster a healthy relationship, learn to meet your own needs first, allowing you to communicate your desires to him in a calm and vulnerable manner.

14:03  Embracing vulnerability and inner strength attracts men, as true confidence comes from being open rather than defensive.

 With love, 

Fareen